Who He Is in the Movie: The Genius, Playboy, Billionaire Philanthropist Superhero Who He Is in Real Life: The Friend Who Always Talks Down to You The movies do not shy away from the fact that practically everyone hates dealing with Tony Stark. "Mr. Stark displays textbook narcissism? ...agreed." And it all boils down to the fact that like Sherlock Holmes, it is a rare occasion when Tony is wrong about something. However, unlike Holmes, Stark loves to be flamboyant about it. I just remembered that Downey Jr. just played Sherlock Holmes, too. Huh. Anyway, he's always going to be "above" you, talking down as if you're some sort of dolt, because it's his nature. He doesn't dislike you, doesn't find you a complete nuisance or anything like that, he just doesn't know a different way to speak. And that's a schtick you'll get over incredibly quickly. Because talking as if life owes you something because of your brilliance is a good way to get alone real fast.