Cheese is made for secution. Is your date asking too many personal questions about how you became an aggressive control freak who owns a flogger? Compare your fetish to people's penchant for cheese. It may not fly with people in the upper tiers of the intelligence scale but if you have someone that's missing a few neurons, you can probably make it work. Cheese. Cheese is always sexy.
"How did you become this way?" "Why is anyone the way they are? That's kind of hard to answer. Why do some people like cheese and other people hate it? Do you like cheese?" We're talking about cheese. Holy crap.