You don't feel a connection to your family because you don't share a lot in common with them, especially in terms of major beliefs - whether it's religion or your lifestyle - it's creating tension and everyone is too stubborn to see both sides of the story. The one positive you can take away from it is that you're always civil, because you're a good person, and you know that once you've settled down and had a family, you know how differently you'll act with your own children. Are ewe the black sheep of your family? Comment in the threads below.