3. How To "Love"
http://youtu.be/ZS9SXH3DfT8 This scene is one of the highlights of Grease - the two love birds meet again. However, here the audience is told a man can't and shouldn't show his affection towards a woman - especially when his friends are around. It's far from cool, it's weak, and it could very likely damage his image and popularity. Essentially, masculinity and popularity are suggested to be more important for a man than showing someone you love them. Moreover, Sandy can't respect Danny and the way he is around his friends and desperately needs his attention and affection - she throws a tantrum if he doesn't. Sandy's behavior here is somewhat irrational and, again, reminds of the hysteria mentioned before. Of course, love is far from rational and her behavior can be explained by their hormones, because, after all, Sandy and Danny are hormonal teenagers - even if the actors were all 25 years and up, which is dubious enough on its own. However, it's interesting that it's the woman that throws the tantrum, and not the man, who has to be cool and tough - it's another clear-cut stereotype, even if, in this scene, it's not as obvious as some others. Moreover, in psychology, it's generally accepted as perfectly normal that one person's behavior differs when he or she is with a different group of people. That is part of group behavior. It's not really as big a problem as Grease stipulates it to be, but why does it make people (girls) think it is? That has a lot to do with the social construct of love and what society thinks it should entail - an emotion that should be translated into a certain behavior.